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This week’s prompt is:   Anger Management

“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”

– Aristotle

“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”

– Buddha

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”

– Ambrose Bierce

“Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.”

– James Russell Lowell

Anger flows easier for some of us than others.  The problem with anger is that it would seem to be somewhat necessary in certain circumstances lest we would spend our lives getting walked over by others.  Sometimes it may be necessary to feign anger to get something done where people will not respond to anything else.  The problem with pretending to be angry is that often we can work ourselves up into being really angry.

The second point about anger is that when we are really angry it just eats us up inside while causing emotional damage to those around us.  So how do we manage our anger?  Everyone has their own tricks, though we all fall off the wagon sometimes.

Suggested Prompts:

*What are your tricks to staying in control of your emotions rather than being controlled by them?  To you find it necessary to act angry sometimes?  What emotions tend to rule your life?  Do you tend to stay angry for long periods or do you get over it quickly?  Why do you get angry, and what do you do to take control of it?

*Write a short story, poem, or share a picture or song that talks about anger management. 

*Any inspired offering that somehow relates to how you or those around you deal with anger.

Dungeon Prompts are meant to open up the abandoned rooms inside ourselves and dust them off a bit.  Explore the recesses of your mind and get back with a poem, story, essay or creative offering.  Link your post to this specific prompt page and I’ll share your link back with our readers.

To participate, all you’ll need to do is:

1.            Tag your post with: “DungeonPrompts”

2.            Link back to this page in the body of your post *

3.            Dive deep within and give us a glimpse of your soul!**

 

*note: If the pingback doesn’t work, then please leave the link to your post in the comment section.

**If you don’t have a blog please feel free to join the discussion in the comment section.

 

This Week’s Contributors are:

Kind of Defeated – MarthaOstout

Valentine’s Day – SplitSpeak

An Animal Caged – TJ Therien

Anger Management: Road Rage – Schizo Incognito

Anger – Contemplating Me

A Conversation About Anger – Stop the Stigma

 A rit of fealous jage – Alienorajt

Anger – Never a Worry

Anger management – It’s a Lonely Place

Anger’s Alibi – Dream Cloud Diaries

Anger, Kyrielle Sonnet – Bastet and Sekhmet’s Library

Thoughts on Anger – Shadows of the Divine

Managing – A Thing of Grace

Memories of My First Rage – Traces of the Soul

Solution, Meditate – Hell on My Heels

To be Feared or Loved – The Seeker’s Dungeon

Anger Management – Writing Works in Progress

An Innocent Monster – Follow Your Shadow

 

Please, also check out last week’s offerings on Role Models:

Bittersweet Heroes – MarthaOstout

Role Models? – Every Day Another Story

Models and Molds – Bastet and Sekhmet’s Library

Role Models – Your Mind in Bloom, LLC

Life Mentors – Traces of the Soul

Role Models and Changing Perceptions – Human in Recovery

Positively Perfect – Dream Cloud Diaries

The Simple Role Model – Hell on My Heels

 

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29 Comments

  1. Oh boy! you always hit areas that are sometimes raw, Sreejit, but so many choices for the picking. I am often faced with !) do I dig deep? 2) which one needs some work (mending – healing) and 3) do I really want to go there? But it IS therapeutic!

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  2. Reblogged this on Stop the Stigma and commented:
    I may share something here or on CherShares that could tie in nicely on our annual Mental Health awareness here, Jan 28th Bell Let’s Talk…great prompt…Although anger is a natural emotion, it sometimes can be a symptom combined with other signs that a person may need to seek help. If we don’t talk about it, the person suffers and many times so do their loved ones.

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  3. I don’t have a creative offering, but as a psychotherapist I certainly have plenty to say on this topic! BTW, I love the quotes you used Sreejit and will send them on to my clients…. and maybe my friends as well.

    Anger can eat us up inside for two reasons. 1) It is toxic energy and if we don’t let it out it can make us physically sick and/or depressed. To me depression is almost always due to blocked anger. 2) If we let it out inappropriately, by dumping it on others, either directly or sideways, then the guilt from our inappropriate action can make us physically sick and/or depressed.

    It is usually important to release a lot of the anger we are feeling prior to talking to the person with whom we are angry. If we dump volcanic level anger on them, it will almost certainly hurt the relationship. Yet the anger is a sign that some problem needs to be addressed.

    The first thing to do is to ask ourselves if the amount of energy we are feeling matches what happened, i.e. is the level of anger bigger than the situation calls for. If the anger is a lot bigger than seems reasonable, it is probably because we have been storing resentments against this person for some time, or because it is reminding us of some event from the past, e.g. mother, father, boss, teacher criticizing us, siblings or peers taunting us, ex spouse cheating on us, etc.

    It is important to release the excess energy prior to dealing with the present day situation. In general, it helps to ask our body what it wants to do and then find a way to do it, a way that doesn’t hurt ourselves, others or the environment.

    Some anger release techniques: 1) Write list of all the things you feel angry about. It is fine to say the same thing over and over again; just let it pour out. 2) Journal about your anger. 3) Write a poison pen letter- i.e. an angry letter pouring out your fury- tear it up afterwards- this is not for anyone to see . 4) Punch a pillow, bed, couch- scream either outwardly or inwardly depending on location. 5) Pick a pillow or object to represent the person you are angry with and tell it off. 6) Use a tennis racquet to hit a pillow, bed, couch. (Do it up on your knees holding the tennis racket straight over your head.) 6) If you feel like pushing a person away, push against a closed door. 7) If you feel like tearing someone to shreds, tear up a telephone book.

    How long we do these things will depend on what technique we are using. We should stop when we feel “done”. Techniques like writing lists or journaling may take 15 minutes to an hour. Three minutes of racquet work will give a tremendous release.

    If there is archaic energy (energy from the past) then the anger work will be most effective if we can do it on the root issue, e.g. anger at the way our teacher, boss, parent, etc. treated us. We may need to do anger work many times over a particular incident before we are ready to deal with the current situation.

    When the excess energy seems to be gone, or at least greatly reduced, we will be able to examine the current day situation to see if there really is a problem that needs to be solved. If there is, after releasing the old anger, our minds will probably be clear enough to address it.

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  4. Ah…see that the pingback came over twice…sorry about that, the only one that should answer is the second. Thanks so much again for a wonder meaningful prompt. I find your comment page also very interesting and it was thought provoking what Karuna wrote. Thanks very much!

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